How To Make Life More Fun: Tips On Living Adventurously

How To Make Life More Exciting, How To Live More Adventurously; How To Make Life More Fun, Beat Boredom, Passion

Okay, Amanda, I thought to myself. This is like, what? Your third night in a row in bed?

The workday was over and I’d shut myself away with a laptop, some comfort snacks, and a serious determination to finish Insecure on HBO. And I had no intention of getting up. Ever.

Which would have been fine, except that I realized this was becoming a pattern of the week. That bothered me.

I really would have loved to cast away all worries and anxieties about the week to the wind and binge-watched sad documentaries (now you know never to ask me for comforting movie recommendations) until it was way past my bedtime. But I also knew that I’d be really unhappy with myself if I did.

Because while one part of me wanted to spend my third evening of the week this way, there was another part of me that didn’t want to.

The part of me that longed for adventure and excitement and passion in my every day life was pleading with me to get up from under the blankets and get on with living well.  Continue reading “How To Make Life More Fun: Tips On Living Adventurously”

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Top 4 Lessons I’ve Learned About Adventure In 2016

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This year was full of wild adventures. I spent a summer experiencing the best of NYC, traveled to Puerto Rico, made many bus trips and road trips along the East Coast, and just generally had a ball of a time exploring.

And I’m grateful for all the lessons I’ve gathered from these expeditions and the act of preparing for them. So I thought a good way to celebrate these newfound understandings was to write a post on them! Continue reading “Top 4 Lessons I’ve Learned About Adventure In 2016”

Happy Birthday Dad! [Plus, 5 Lessons I Learned From My Father]

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Yay! My dad is another year older today!

I am so lucky to have a great father. He has always been there for me and has always encouraged me to strive for my dreams. Happy birthday, dad!

In honor of his birthday, here are the top 5 things I’ve learned from my dad: Continue reading “Happy Birthday Dad! [Plus, 5 Lessons I Learned From My Father]”

How To Love Yourself: A Guide To Overcoming Low Self-Esteem

How To Love Yourself: A Guide To Overcoming Low Self-Esteem | #selfesteem #confidence #positivity #love #self #selflove #selfesteem #guide                   I have been lucky: I have almost always believed I could. My parents, teachers, and friends instilled in me a belief that I was smart enough, skilled enough, and good enough to do whatever it was I decided to do.

At the end of the day, we are all enough. We are worthy of healthy relationships, positive outcomes, and success.

But as a friend and a therapist, my interactions with people in my life and the clients I work with has revealed that not everyone believes this idea that they are strong, good, and capable. There are a number of reasons why this could be the case: rough parenting, societal messages about one’s personhood, traumatic experiences, or any number of other histories. Continue reading “How To Love Yourself: A Guide To Overcoming Low Self-Esteem”

Why You Should Stop Improving Yourself For Your Future Spouse

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Some of my favorite girls at a church event! I miss you each.

I grew up in the Protestant church, so I heard a lot of messages about marriage from an early age. Whether subliminal or direct, my family members, friends, and leaders taught me lots of things about what a healthy marriage should look like and how I should prepare myself to be in one.

I don’t really subscribe to most of the things I was taught about marriage anymore. There are many reasons for this and I won’t get into it all right now. But the main message I want to discuss today is the idea that I should be preparing myself for the person I would marry.

I heard it phrased many different ways. At one faith-based conference, a pastor told me I needed to “become the Queen your King is looking for, or he may pass you by.” A few other times I was told to “become the person who the person you’re looking for is looking for.” Continue reading “Why You Should Stop Improving Yourself For Your Future Spouse”

Beat The Mundane: A Wake-Up Call To Anyone Stuck In A Daily Routine

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When you woke up this morning, were you excited about today?

Or were you full of dread and boredom, not wanting to get out of the comfort of your bed to start the drudgery that would be your daily routine?

If you identified with the latter question, and if you know your answer would have been the same yesterday and will probably be the same tomorrow, something’s gotta change. And it’s gotta change now. Continue reading “Beat The Mundane: A Wake-Up Call To Anyone Stuck In A Daily Routine”

I Wrote One Thank-You Note Every Day For A Month. Here’s What I Learned.

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A couple of months ago I decided to write one thank-you note every day for a month. It was an endeavor I undertook as part of my bucket list goals. I wrote to my family members, friends, mentors, professionals in my life, and people I didn’t even know. Here’s what I took away: Continue reading “I Wrote One Thank-You Note Every Day For A Month. Here’s What I Learned.”

I’m Trying To Be A Better Friend. Here’s How.

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There’s only one item on my bucket list I know I’ll never cross off.

Goal #12 on my long-term bucket list is to become a better friend, and I think there will always be room for growth. There will never be a day when I can say I am the best friend there ever was to all the people in my life, so I’ll always have more to strive for.

But lately I’ve been really going at this one. I have some really stellar people in my life and I think they deserve my very best effort.

Here’s what I’ve been doing to become a better friend: Continue reading “I’m Trying To Be A Better Friend. Here’s How.”

The One Encouraging Phrase That Gets Me Through Everything

The One Encouraging Phrase That Gets Me Through Everything | Even on the worst of bad days, these inspiring words help me carry on and find peace.

Please don’t get me wrong: I loved college. I had an amazing college experience filled with great memories and amazing friends, and I loved my major and my school (shout-out to William & Mary! Luh dat place.). But if I had to rank each of my college years in order of goodness, I would probably put sophomore year last. Continue reading “The One Encouraging Phrase That Gets Me Through Everything”

The Biggest Mistake I Was Making That Kept Me From Living Fully

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He’s a good one.

One of the things I appreciate about Kemp (da boyfrand, as I’ve previously discussed) is that sometimes he is blatantly honest with me and says something I don’t want to hear, even though it’s exactly the thing I need to hear.

This happened a few weeks  ago.
We were wandering through Washington, DC on one of the hottest, stickiest days of the summer in late July. Kemp lives in DC (but he moves to NYC next week!) and I am from the area, so the city is familiar to both of us. It was late afternoon and the sun was setting over the trees, and I was telling Kemp about my desire to start living even more intentionally than I already do. (This was one of the conversations that spurred me on in my aspirations to start this blog!) I told him I didn’t want my 20s to slip away before I took the time to fully live them. Continue reading “The Biggest Mistake I Was Making That Kept Me From Living Fully”